Answering the call to make our world a better place.

Untold

Bobbette Buster, a mentor and friend, has just published her first book, Do Story: How to tell your story so the world listensI’m honored that a part of my story is captured so gracefully in her book, even if I choked and couldn’t tell it for myself. Seeing this moment of my life in print, and with such good company, has given me a small dose of courage to share another story that I also haven’t been able to tell, until now.

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I’m holding three children, all at once, in my arms. Each clinging to me with vice grip strength that seems impossible for their tiny, malnourished bodies. Two more little ones sit at my feet and hold on to my legs, and the older girls fuss around me, braiding my hair and touching my pale, freckled arms. One little girl, Betina, holds my gaze with her huge, sad eyes and searches my face for answers that I know I will never be able to give her. Her head is disproportionately larger than her tiny body. I feel myself on the verge of breaking down when someone on my team, far more experienced than I, begins blasting music on her cell phone. The kids perk up and everyone goes crazy, singing and dancing  the “Waka Waka” – a fabulously catchy song by Shakira. We play it over and over endlessly and it’s a welcome distraction for everyone.

The Baby Orphanage, as it’s called, had around fifteen children before the earthquake, and now there are over thirty, with new arrivals coming every week. It’s nearly impossible for the staff to know if a child is an actual orphan, or if the parents simply can not care for them anymore, which is a gut-wrenching thought, given the conditions at the orphanage. They have no access to clean water. The kids all have parasites, which give them distended bellies and awful stomach pains. They often get just one meal a day, a portion of gloppy porridge served on an old frisbee or in a tin cup. Meal time is controlled chaos. There are no high-chairs or even a dining table, so when the toddlers are handed their portion, they scatter about the yard, some gobbling quickly as possible, others running off to various corners to guard their small meal. Betina insists I feed her, guiding the spoon with her little hand firmly on mine, her eyes staring at me the entire time. A scrawny boy, suffering badly from ringworm, is desperately trying to scramble his way up onto my lap. Betina takes my hand and offers him her spoonful. I am stunned by her generosity, and  give her big hug and kiss on the cheek.  She doesn’t smile- not one tiny bit- but her big, sad eyes grow wider and brighten a little. It seems that Betina, like all the kids at the orphanage, is most hungry for love and affection.

I think about the training we received prior to entering the small orphanage, and keep reminding myself of the instructions. 

Don’t hold on to any one child for more than a few minutes. Try to move around and give your attention to as many kids as possible. Whatever you do, don’t fall apart in front of the kids

After a few moments, I take a deep breath and, literally, pry Betina and other kids off my lap and gently set them on the ground. Betina tries again and again to attach herself to me, until one of the staff pulls her away. I venture back into the baby room, scanning the rows and rows of cribs, and what we jokingly call “baby cages”. Some of the babies are screaming and some are motionless, eyes open, staring blankly into space. I scoop three new little ones for a cuddle until it’s time to start the process of detaching six tiny octopus arms all over again.

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Five moths later, I find myself in Ofunato, Japan, working with the same volunteer organization as in Haiti.  The scope and power of the tsunami is unfathomable. Everything is smashed into bits, except when, randomly and inexplicably, it isn’t. A massive boat was flung from the sea, and crashed into the second story of a house, hundreds of feet from the coastline. My team is assigned to help a man trying to salvage his home, or so we think. The wood work was incredible, and we strip away the flooded drywall and insulation down to the studs. We work together all day, and in the afternoon, a nephew arrives. He tells us the home actually belonged to the man’s twin brother and his wife. They, along with the man’s father, were lost in the tsunami. The nephew shares how the man had built the house with his own hands, as a wedding present to his brother. Japan is a rich nation, but there’s no comparing human suffering and tragedy. I think of the survivors grace and dignity and tell myself; whatever you do, don’t fall apart.

The town loudspeaker signals the end of the day by playing “Yesterday” by John Lennon.

We stack our tools in the wheelbarrow and the man profusely thanks us, bowing, pressing candy and sweets into our hands.

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Later that night, I fall apart.

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4 responses

  1. Kari

    Deej…I may be the only other person on earth who can TOTALLY relate to this story, having shared both experiences with you on different sides of the planet. I , also, had the orphanage experience as well as the chilling playing of “Yesterday” through the tsunami warning system. Thank you for this telling. It’s given me a few minutes to sit…be still…ponder.

    You have had SO MANY experiences around the world and are so poignant with pen to paper (ok…fingertips to keyboard!) that I wonder if there is a book or two in your future?? :)

    Keep on typing and telling, m’lady! There are more stories to tell…
    Kari

    May 28, 2013 at 7:10 pm

    • Kari- oh! I thought of you SO much when I was writing this. I’m grateful you were there both times, and know how helpless and humbling it feels. Thank you so much for your lovely comments about my writing, it truly means the world to me- especially coming from you. xoxo

      May 28, 2013 at 7:28 pm

  2. Michael

    And sometimes, even now, the memories come flooding back. And tears flow again for the people we’ve met through our travels. I really wouldn’t have it any other way.

    May 28, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    • Michael- it helps that you see progress, yes? I’m proud of you for returning to Haiti again and again. I need to. xoxo

      May 28, 2013 at 7:29 pm

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